The Energetic Reason People Treat You the Way They Do (And How To Fix It)

Do you keep attracting people who:

• Disrespect you
• Give you mixed signals
• Put little to no effort into your relationship/friendship
• Overlook you
• Take you for granted

It's not "bad luck", it's energetic patterning

Don't worry, it can be changed.

 

1. People respond to the version of you that you believe in
   

Energy is always communicated to people before you can even speak

If deep down you believe: 

• I'm not that important
• I don't want to be difficult
• I should just accept this
• I don't want to lose them 

People will feel it. Not consciously but energetically

And they'll adjust their behaviour to match the level you're subconsciously allowing them to

 

2. Your boundaries teach people how to treat you

If you: 

• Laugh off disrespect
• Accept when they reply you late but reply them immediately
• Overgive hoping they chose you
• Stay silent when you're uncomfortable 

You're training people to treat you as such 

It shows people that your energy says, "it's acceptable to treat me this way" and people will follow that standard

 

3. Familiar energy feels like "chemistry"

Sometimes the reason why someone feels magnetic is because they match and remind you of an old, untreated and unhealed wound

If you grew up:

• Having to earn everyone's attention
• Being emotionally unseen
• Working hard for validation

You might subconsciously attract people who recreate that dynamic

It'll feel intense, familiar and like "chemistry"

But it's actually pattern recognition 

 

Here's how you fix it

1. Shift the frequency

You can't force people to change. If they want to treat you like shit they will. You fix it by upgrading your own internal standards. 

Step 1: Stop rewarding low effort

Just don't overexplain, chase or give emotional discounts. You're just allowing them to do the same thing to you again and again

Step 2: Regulate yourself and your emotions before reacting

You can do this by acknowledging your emotions, breathing deeply and physically grounding yourself (e.g. touching something hot/cold to bring yourself back)

Step 3: Raise your baseline

Ask yourself: 

"If I truly believed I was high value, how would I respond right now?"

And do that

Step 4: Bust out the candles

When all else fails, Witchcraft will always be there for you

Grab 7 pink candles and do a self-love ritual for yourself. You can set intentions to be able to have stronger boundaries and treat yourself right.

2. Start acting like you're the prize (because you are)

Not in a delusional way but in a grounded way

This can look like: 

• Speaking slower
• Saying less
• Making decisions without overjustifying
• Walking away when something feels misaligned
• Operating from a place of high self-worth
• Prioritising your happiness
• Setting firm boundaries
• Refusing to chase others

People can feel when your energy shifts from "please choose me" to "I choose carefully" and their behaviour towards you shifts too

3. If nothing changes, that's information

If you did everything and nothing changes you need to understand that it's a blessing. When you raise your standards,

• Some people level up and meet you there
• Other people disappear

The real goal isn't controlling how people treat you

It's to become someone who no longer tolerates less

 

Unfortunately, people don't treat you based on what you deserve

They treat you based on: 

• What you tolerate
• What you reinforce
• What you energetically expect

Change these and the pattern breaks